I’ve only been a mother for 3 years, 7 months, 3 weeks and 1 day but it already seems like a lifetime.
Since the twins have started speaking I’ve been answering their questions. “What’s that?” was the first question that I had to answer. Numerous times actually. Sometimes “that” was a ball or a tree or a sock. Lately I’ve been answering more and more questions regarding my wedding and I keep thinking about how my answers might affect how they view weddings, marriage or love.
I’ve been thinking about when I was a young girl. How I used to ask my mother questions about her wedding. How I would put a pillow case on top of my head, hold a bouquet of pretend flowers and beam as I walked down the hallway towards my imaginary husband. How I would daydream about my own wedding, dressed like Cinderella walking towards my Prince Charming. I wonder if my own daughters will play the same silly games, dream the same dreams. I wonder if they will plan out their wedding day before they have even fallen in love for the first time, like I did.
And what if one or two or all of my daughters turn out to be gay? What then for their hopes and dreams? I cannot even begin to explain the anguish I feel to just imagine that one of my children is told that they cannot marry the person they love, that they are not welcome to the rights that their heterosexual parents, friends and co-workers have. To have them made to feel like they are second class citizens, unnatural, unworthy, not normal, freaks, sinners…how DARE anyone?!?
Why should anyone else care who my (hypothetically gay) daughter marries? Why should anyone feel like they have the right to decide if she can or cannot marry? Who the hell do these people think they are? And what are they so afraid of?
“We hold these truths to be self evident: that all men are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain inalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness” ~ Thomas Jefferson
Unless they are homosexual, apparently. Shame on anyone who lets their ignorance or fear justify themselves into thinking it’s OK to take someones rights, someones happiness, someones hopes and dreams from them. Shame on you.
Love is love people. Equality for all.
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Parenthood widens our vision and our hearts in many ways, doesn’t it?
Too bad it doesn’t work that way for everyone. It’s shameful the things we do accept in our society (truly immoral stuff) compared to the things we do not.
IMO the the Gay Marriage debate in the US is more about gays gaining wider acceptance in the community rather then Gay Marriage itself . I could be wrong but that is just my take on the situation .
It’s pretty sad to me, what we say and do in the name of morality. I was at church last night, and there is a guy there who is socially deficient…I am not sure what is wrong with him, but he definitely has a mental handicap of some sort. But, he’s very friendly and talkative…probably too much some times. I’ve noticed that he gets on people’s nerves a lot. So, last night, I was helping out with VBS, and a girl starts to ask me what I think about him, and I just said that I didn’t know him very well, but he seems nice. She did not want me to leave her alone with him, and was obviously annoyed that he wanted to have a conversation with us. She was trying to convince me to be annoyed too…but I couldn’t help but think: if we can’t go to church to be accepted…if this is not the place to experience love, then where else for this poor man? For people who claim to want to be LIKE Jesus – the man who ate with prostitutes and lepers and was condemned by the religious rulers for hanging out with scum, for sticking up for the little people, for loving unconditionally…it’s just so SAD that we are so far off as people.
I know this isn’t about a gay person, but it strikes me just the same. Because the anti gay movement is fueled by religious leaders who seem to be holier than anyone else…but really, seem to be filled with hatred and fear more than love and mercy. Personally, I have been given so so so much grace in my life…and it does make me angry when we just condemn people for something we don’t understand or is not any of our business.
I know I’m going all christianese on you, and I hope I don’t offend anyone, but there is a verse in the Bible that I love, and it is basically God saying, “I desire mercy from you, not sacrifice. I desire that you know ME before all, and that you show mercy to others.” It’s in Hosea somewhere…and I think it speaks volumes about what humans should be doing more of. Showing mercy and love – not judgement!
Sorry I ramble on so!!!
I love that verse Kari! That is what I want my children to see in me, that I’ve shown mercy, compassion and love to others. I hope that I will be able to teach those things, above all others to my children.